Please be praying for my son and his wife. They have been seperated for about the last month and the situation has deteriorated.

My primary prayer is salvation for both ~ no matter what it takes. Secondly, I am praying now for my son to forgive his wife and not pursue a divorce.

I could use prayers to continue to not have unforgiveness in my own heart against my dil. I have found it could be very easy to do that because of my love for my son, but that is not what God would have. I am praying for God to be huge in all this.

Blessings,
Deb

I'm praying Deb. I will go back and review our correspondence on this and see if I need to add anything or what direction I will be praying for you and your son. I am so sorry you are going through this now with everything else in your life.

One of the things I do when it seems like the trials are being piled on - "God, is there something in this you want me to learn?"

And then I watch, wait and listen with intensity. I pray you also find peace and rest in that search.

Love you.

Thanks Michelle...at your suggestion I am asking God that question.

I find it comforting and odd that at this time I am really believing God is going to work this for good and I am thanking Him for the timing. Seems like I would normally lean to 'this is too much'...but actually praying for them and all keeps my mind off me and dwelling on all that and I find that is a blessing.

I am so sorry about your son and his wife. I pray that this will lead them to find Christ as their personal Lord and Saviour.

Father in Heaven, I thank You for the example Jesus set for us. When the waves were tossing the boat as though it would sink...Christ spoke, "Peace, be still." And the waters stopped churning. "O ye of little faith" is true for all of us. Lord, as we look at the storms of our lives, and especially this very personal storm in Saint Deb's son's life, I pray that our Peace will be found in You. Father, whatever this son turns to for comfort and peace, I pray that it would turn him back into Your Mighty Arms. Father, open His eyes to the power of forgiveness. Break through the heart that is hardening towards this wife and stir up in him and in her a desire to start fresh in Your Truth. I thank You for the peace Saint Deb has in knowing You are in control. Father, she is offering her Isaac on the altar. Provide a ram in the thicket. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Amen, Twinkle. Lord, pray in agreement with Deb and Twinkle tonight for Deb's son, his wife and his marraige as well as Deb's health and her journey that you have her on. You are God alone, and from before time began You have been on the throne, Unshakeable, Unstoppable, Unchangeable - and Today, You have an Unshakeable, Unstoppable, Unchangeable plan for their good and for Your glory to be revealed. I pray it be done on earth as it is in Heaven, Lord. This very day. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Praying, Deb...

Love,
Alyson

I am continuing to pray for salvation for my son and his wife.

This weekend my son personally informed me that he is getting a divorce and that this is what his wife wants also.

Honestly, I don't think there was much discussion between them about it all. I 'think' what I am to learn in all this is just to trust God with all of it even though I detest the whole situation. I have prayed against divorce for both of my children and for this son from before he ever married. I 'feel' like someone very near and dear has actually died. The whole thing makes me so sad but I can tell my son is not interested in what I think and he doesn't want to talk about it.

I expect Saturday to be difficult because my dil's brother is getting married and both my son and her are in the wedding. I am not even sure how to pray for this. I continue to pray for reconcilliation for my son and his wife because I believe it is the right thing to do...although I know that they will do what they want in the end.

Thank you so much to all that have been praying.

Deb I am so sorry about your son and dil,If it helps at all to know someone understands ,my son's first marriage lasted only three months.He felt his life was over,but life went on and he is very happily married now.

God may have someone special your son hasn't even met yet.
I am not sure about divorce ,I do know it just seemes that some couples just can't get along.All we can do is put it in God's hands.
praying for you and yours,annette

Saint Deb, may God work this out for His Glory. You may want to send your son a letter sharing your heart with him.

Twinkle,

Sharing my heart with him??? I don't think he would want to hear my heart. Maybe I don't quite understand what you are saying?

My son dated his wife for 6 yrs before they married and has been married going on 8 years. No one ever thought 'they' would be the type to break up. Including my son!

Maybe you can email me twinkle...sometimes I am a bit slow.

Like you, I do pray God works this all out for His glory and to draw each one of them to Him.

Praying for your son and his situation.

I am so sorry that this comes as an added burden while you are struggling so much with health issues.

Praying for your hubby too.

God be with you all.
Malva

Deb,

Sometimes the hardest time to hold onto your faith and your sanity in Christ is in the midst of a shipwreck. Much like Paul who was shipwrecked while imprisoned. He even pulled everyone together and brought his ministry to those who were holding him as prisoner.

Instead of getting mired down in the whys, what-ifs and maybes... especially, the "why is this not working out the way I prayed" perhaps you should get built up in the Spirit and learn to not try to "fix this" (whatever that looks like) for your son, but allow him to live out the consequences of these choices - allowing God to be God and you just be an extension of His love, His grace and His mercy in a very troubled and trying time.

God has a plan and a purpose for even this. His will is for them to be reconciled in Christ - but if that will not happen (because of their free will), He has a plan that will lead your son and his wife to Christ and the ultimate reconciliation of salvation even if it is through divorce court.

It sometimes takes losing everything we have control over in order to fully surrender and trust the Lord. As difficult as it is for you as a mother, you must find a way to be boundaries rather and interceder in this situation, the best intercession will come from your knees wearing out the carpet (figuratively if you are not able verbally) - God is so teaching me this with my husband and my daughters.

It is absolutely the most frustrating thing that drove me headlong into several weeks of depression and a few emotional outbursts and a lot, did I say a lot, of so-papilla cheesecake. But, I'm better today because it forced me to examine why I wanted what I wanted and it also required me to examine what I needed to work on in me that drove me headlong into that messy season. I am praying For God's Ultimate Will to Be Done... And, reconciliation to Christ first and his wife second would be what I see as the will of God based on Scripture, but truth to prevail however that looks is the miracle that will bring total healing. I pray your son sees the light in every way!

Bless YOU sweet sister.

Deb,

Sharing your heart with him...in a letter...makes you focus on what you are saying. As you write, you may pick up on something you recognize as being harsh or judgmental. Rethink what you are saying and start writing again.

A mother is a child's greatest mentor...I don't care how old the child is. Your son may be receiving advice from others that may not be wise counsel.

You know how important working through issues in a marriage is because of the many years you have been married to your dear husband. You two didn't just walk away when differences entered your relationship. You stuck together through them and your marriage was enriched by that.

Your son may be choosing to end this marriage based on unwise counsel or he may be moving on because it is time. I don't know.

Just try writing him a letter based on your personal testimony about marriage and commitment...and do it with love.

Is there a verse that you could weave into your letter? God's Word is so powerful. It ministers when our words are just so lacking.

And I would never recommend that you hurt him over his decision. It is a very personal decision that he will have to make and live with. He needs your support but it may make you feel better to encourage him with a better way to deal with his problem than divorce.

And then he will have the letter, that he can read and re-read, and hopefully it will give him wise counsel without the raised voices, uplifted eyebrow, body language challenges, etc. It is a non-threatening alternative to give wise counsel to your son.

Support his decision if nothing changes after you share your heart with him. He is an adult. You will never know what he has gone through with in his marriage. He will always be your son and he definitely needs your support right now.

I pray that God would give you all you need to settle this in your heart and help your son come through this wiser and trusting Jesus for all his needs. May Christ be glorified through all of this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

I have been praying about the letter Twinkle. I don't sense an answer yet.

This is difficult for me because as it goes on I find I have some ambivelent feelings I don't like much.

I talked to my son once this week. Sun. evening and he told me he was going over to his wives to watch a movie with her and that they had been talking and are going to stay friends. Although they still plan on divorcing.

All kinds of red flags went up for me and I realized I want to protect my son from any further pain. I also realize I am not able to do that and just need to keep praying and allow God to be in control. Seems like this situation is continuously changing everytime I speak with him and mostly what I sense is that I am to just keep praying and be encouraging and especially keep my mouth shut <<<<< Oh Lord, help me with that because that is where I fail so often.

I appreciate all the prayers.

Ladies, thanks to all that had been praying for my son.

The update is that he and his wife were officially divorced about July 7th. They continue to be friends and he tells me they talk often and do many things together. She is in a relationship with another man. My son told me the reason the divorce was so fast was because the man she is involved with is a Jehovah's Witness and he wouldn't introduce her to his family until she was divorced.

Please pray for my former daughter in law. There isn't any evidence that she is born again. She needs the Lord desperately; as we all do.

I would appreciate prayers for my son Brandon also. He really doesn't like the single life. It is obvious he is lonely. I just continue to pray that all of this will draw him closer to the Lord. However, it 'seems' like my son is looking for 'something' or rather 'some one' to fulfill his life. He told me he really wants to meet a woman... and he seems so serious about that. I think he still loves his exwife. I keep 'feeling' like their staying friends is not a good thing. I guess I am struggling with thinking she may just be keeping him around, just in case the relationship she is in doesn't work out. So, I am struggling with the cycle of sin in judging her and unforgiveness. I keep confessing and repenting of this and then seem to go right back to it. I find it hard to watch my son be in pain. Not being able to do anything to help him besides pray is not as easy as it sounds. My flesh so want to 'do something'.

My son hasn't went to church since before his marriage nearly 8 years ago. I got to talk to him a few weeks ago and ask him some questions about his faith. He told me he is saved and prays; but not every night. It struck me that many people seem to get the idea that they are to pray at 'night'. I didn't say anything about that to him but it really is stuck in my thinking. IMO my son's walk with the Lord is very shallow and I am praying for him to seek to know God so much more than looking for someone to love to replace his exwife. I could use prayers for just knowing how to even talk to my son when I see him. It is difficult to know what to say as he seems to be trying to organize his life or something like that and it seems like he just isn't knowing which direction to go...If that makes any sense.

Actually, it does make sense because he is relying on his own wisdom and likely doesn't even know that he could get the direction he needs from the Lord. Perhaps it is the time to write my son a letter from my heart.

I would be most grateful for any and all prayers for him, his exwife and me.

Blessings,
Deb

Deb,
1.pray that your son would be filled with knowledge of God's will for his life.

2.pray he would live a life pleasing to God.

3.that he would grow in grace and knowledge of God's word.

4.that he would experience the power of God's glorious power in his life.

5.that he would learn to be thankful to God for He hath made us to be partakers of the inheritance of the Saints.

You can't go wrong here,loue you dearly

Deb, how thankful I am that we have God to turn to! Only He can help. May He do so in His way and time.
Like Teresa, you are in the "Valley of Troubles" too. I pray for you the same as for her (see "Surrender" post).
Blessings,
Malva