I don't think that's silly at all. Earlier in our marriage my husband travelled a lot with work, sometimes being gone two weeks out of every month. It was hard!! It was especially hard on our kids, and their missing Daddy really showed up in their behavior sometimes. It helped me to develop two separate routines -- one for when he was home and one for when he was away. That way we had a "normal" routine to follow whether he was around or not, rather than trying to follow the same routine and always feeling like something was missing. The transition between the two was probably the hardest, and would sometimes take us a day or two to adjust when he came home or when he left again. I will pray for you to find contentment, and for your children to be comforted in other ways even when they can't see Dad face-to-face.
Lori

Thanks Lori, I appreciate that. Husband is gone about 3 wks out of the month. In fact, he's gone right now to San Antonio, TX. I'm proud of him and so happy he enjoys his work and is able to take a child from time to time but it is somewhat difficult at times. I'm so grateful for cell phones and IM on the internet! I don't know how my MIL was able to cope when FiL was gone on Mission trips back in the '60's and '70's! He was once gone for 6 months and when he returned, his little boy (my husband) didn't know who he was!!

Back when we only had two kids, my husband was gone for 8 weeks to attend a school (he was military then). Our daughter was 6 months old when he left and had just gotten to where she would even let him hold her (she was a real "Mama's Girl"). She finally had decided that Daddy was okay when he had to go away to school. He was gone two months, and when he got home it was like starting all over again! Thankfully it didn't take her as long to accept him the next time, and they became fast buddies within a matter of weeks. But it was really hard, feeling like a single parent even tho' it was temporary. Our son was 3 yrs old and it was hard for him, too. But I think God used that time to teach me a lot of things about depending on Him. I will continue to pray for you and your family, that God will use this for good in all of your lives.

Lori, I really like that idea of two routines - one for when he's home and one for when he's gone. Mine doesn't travel that much, but I've heard from many moms whose husbands do and they are very frustrated by trying to keep the same routine in both settings. Did you write this out?
Thanks for your wisdom!
Christine

Christine,
Do you mean did I write out our routines? At that time, probably not. But if I had it to do again, then I would. It's kind of the same way we do our school schedule now. We have one routine for days that we're home all day, and a different routine for days we have to be gone (like co-op days or whatever). When my husband was doing more travelling I didn't tend to write out schedules or routines, but it would have been easier if I had. My kids were pretty young so it might not have helped them, but it sure would have helped me! I just tried to keep it all straight in my head (which is WAY too overcrowded now to do that again!) I know it did help a lot to have a plan for "Dad at home time" and "Travel time".

Ladies,
I need to request prayer for my 14s. He needs a godly friend; an "iron" to help sharpen him and whom he can sharpen to the glory of God. (I hope this makes sense.) He is so lonely and wants to be accepted.... I guess I'm just hurting for him this evening.

My son went thru a time like that, and it was so hard to see him hurting and feel helpless to do anything about it. We prayed, and God answered. He blessed my son with several friends, one or two that he now considers his "brothers" (he calls one "the brother I never had"). I will pray for your son, that God will send him the right friend.

Thanks Lori. Is this the son that has graduated?

Yes, that's the one (the only one I have ) At his graduation ceremony his two "brothers" both got up and spoke and it was really touching to hear how close they all were. Then when my son gave his speech, he talked to several people individually, including these two guys, and you could feel the love they have for each other. They truly are brothers at heart, and I believe they will stay that way for years to come.

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I'll have a follow-up appt with my doctor the second week of October, just before we get ready to move, so hopefully I'll get a good report.

My doctor appt. was today. I guess it was an okay report. My cholesterol was back to 241 (was 240 in March, 260 in July) so it's heading in the right direction but still too high. When I had the reaction to the Zocor my CK level (not sure what that is, just what he called it) was 262. He told me anything over 220 is considered above normal. Now, after being off the Zocor for a month, it's back down -- to 96! So I'd say the 262 was very high, not "slightly elevated" like they told me. So that obviously was what was causing my problems. He suggested I could try a different medication, but I opted not to do that right now. I don't want to risk having another reaction, especially if it were to happen when we're in the middle of moving (and without a doctor). So for now I'm continuing to watch my diet, exercise as much as I can, and he said I could take Fish Oil Capsules as a supplement for a more natural approach. If we're still here in 3 months (which I hope we are not!) I'll go back and have it checked again. Otherwise, after we move and I get settled with my new doctor, I'll get it checked then and see what to do next. I'm praying this more natural approach will work, both for the cholesterol and for my health in general.

Well, that's good!!! My husband has been on Crestor with no problems after being taken off Zocor.

Husband is coming home today and should be home all weekend!!!! I can't imagine what military wives must go through!!!!

Quiver,
I pray your hubby had a joyous home-coming and that your weekend will seem to streeeeeeeeatch to feel as full as it need to feel.
Blessings,
Christine

Thanks Christine, we've really enjoyed him being home!

My Husband has a major decision about church. We've been active members of this church since August, 1997, and church is our entire life. All of our friends are there, all of our activities... You get the picture. The thought of moving our membership breaks my heart. We did attend another area Baptist church yesterday and it was nice. Husband needs to meet with our Pastor and discuss things but I think his mind is already made up. I understand and support Husband but at the same time.... This almost feels like a death.
Please pray that Husband will continue to be lead by the Lord as he leads our family.

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Quiver I will pray for you all in this church membership is such a delicate thing for all involved. If the Lord is leading to better spiritual growth a change will be par for the course. Hope you all can have peace about it.

I am new here also.I have been reading for several weeks and just had to respond to Andrea..I to lived with a hubby who wasnt saved for almost 25 years..It's not easy and I know what you are going through...I would go in my closet after he would leave for work and just pour my heart out to God...I ask him over and over to save my hubby... I finally after all those years just had to turn him all of him over to God....He was saved...It took 25 years but it is worth the wait..I look back on it now and I think it was also a learning experience God had in store for me to..You hang in keep telling God what you need in your life "A Christian Hubby"...But know it will be in GOd's time not ours....
God Bless You
Fran